Commitment Phobia & Hypnotherapy
Commitment Phobia
Commitment phobia is the fear and avoidance of having to commit to anything, relationships in particular, but can include other areas of life such as career or home-ownership.
The term commitment phobia was coined in the popular self-help book Men Who Can't Love in 1987. Following criticism of the perceived sexist idea that only men were commitment phobic, the authors provided a more gender balanced model of commitment phobia in a later work, He's Scared, She's Scared.
People tend to think of Commitment Phobics as people who run away from relationships, in fact some Commitments Phobics do not run away, but rather settle for inappropriate partners. They can have been in a long-term relationship and suddenly the fear kicks in and they feel trapped.
It can also spill over into others areas of life such as career and home-ownership.
Commitment Phobia Symptoms
The most typical symptoms of Commitment Phobia are:
Being overly critical of the other partner in the relationship
Hurting or annoying their partner
Rejecting others right from the go – scared of being noticed
Sabotaging the relationship in all kinds of ways
Being flirtatious and affectionate until the fear wins out
Having a series of relationships – considered promiscuous by friends
Deliberately choosing a person who can’t or won’t commit
Falling in love with someone they know isn’t interested in a long-term relationship
Genuinely want to meet Mr or Miss Right and get married but having unrealistic ideals regarding possible partners
Leaving a relationship only to return again later and then repeating it again – the yo-yo effect
Afraid of committing to anything whether it be a relationship, family relationships, friendships, having a baby, job, hobby, buying a house or even buying a pair of shoes .....
Help for Commitment Phobia
Commitment Phobia is far more common than you may think. I have seen many people over the years suffering from commitment phobia. I am often contacted by the partner’s of commitment phobics looking for information. Once you understand that you are suffering from commitment phobia then it is important to know that help is available.
It responds really well to Hypnotherapy and in particular, Pure Hypnoanalysis. The aim is not to ‘control’ it but to resolve the underlying issues once and for all, leaving you free to live life without fear and to be able to commit and enjoy life.
Find out More
If you, or your partner, are suffering then please do contact me for a free, no obligation, confidential and non-judgement initial consultation. You can book either by phone or e-mail. Or you may have some questions you would like to ask first.
Please be assured, there is never any pressure to make a decision then and there; you can go away and have a think about it and make an informed choice.
By Phone 01392 420740 or 01803 859471: I am often with clients and so if you get the answerphone, please do leave a message with a good time for me to come back to you. I return calls as promptly as possible, alternatively ..
By E-Mail penny@baytherapy.co.uk: I check my e-mails regularly throughout the day and will come back to you with answers to any of your questions and, if you have indicated you would like to book an initial consultation, with potential dates/times for you to choose from.
Email penny@baytherapy.co.uk
Tel: 01392 420740 or 01803 859471